Lifestyle Desk: It is better to be silent than to give advice. You must know some people who are completely successful in life. They have a great career, a happy married life, and are living an enjoyable life with their children. You can be like that yourself. Or maybe you need advice and counsel to get such a life.
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Many become experts in giving good advice to others. But we often hear some very common advice in situations. According to experts, it is better not to say anything. Even saying nothing in this case is very positive. Find out about some of the worst advice.
1. 'Quit the job and do what feels good' : It will please the person you are telling. Maybe a man is in dire straits with his career. It is good for him to get rid of it. But leaving the job does not see a good future. Or he has some responsibilities. There are many people who do not like their job at all. But you have to provide money to survive for yourself, family and society. If you don't like it, just give up and do what you want, life will not go on. So, the one who is talking, is actually giving the worst advice.
2. 'She will come, just be patient': You go ahead with a few words of comfort when your beloved girlfriend is alone in unbearable moments. Especially when she is having love problems or is spending days waiting for her boyfriend, it is really your responsibility to give good advice. You can say something encouraging to him while comforting him. But don't give false hope and say things that will only waste his time. Rather keep quiet, but don't give false hope to his mind without knowing it.
3. 'Having a child will make you feel different' : After becoming a parent, people get a new life and identity. Especially in the case of women, it is said that girls understand the meaning of life when they become mothers. This is actually wrong. There are many women who do not want to achieve motherhood. They love their nephews and nieces very much. But are not eager to have children of their own. And according to experts, it is their mentality which cannot be called wrong at all. Many other things may be considered more important to her than motherhood. So don't tell such a woman that her needs will change when she becomes a mother.
4. 'The selfishness of not having children' : Do you think that parents of children are not selfish? Having children or not is a matter of people's own thoughts. There is no question of selfishness here. Selfishness is a characteristic that all people have more or less. If one does not want to have children for a meaningful life, it cannot be called selfishness.
5. 'Change your mindset about marriage-children-society' : When all arguments are exhausted, counselors resort to the last weapon. Many people cannot cope with many things in life. It may go against the prevailing social order. But he cannot be considered bad. In this case, you can try to convince a person. But if you understand that the person will not understand or his beliefs will not change, then do not create confusion. Respect his opinion and thoughts in this regard. Keep quiet if necessary, but don't go around saying 'you will change your mind and thinking about these things'.
